To bring together in some manner of union.
To notice or honor a day, occasion or deed.
So we are coming together to Solemnize our Domestic Partnership.
*Marriage, according to Webster, we're not: It says, "A state of being united
- to the opposite sex." Ops.'
We're getting married*... 'Da Mayor' of San Francisco, Willie Brown
will solemnize our Domestic Partnership at a public ceremony on
We'll have our Spiritual ceremony later on - come summertime.
This is a very good thing and a once in a lifetime commitment for
both of us.
This will be a Lesbian/Gay and Leather Pride event for us all: "In
Gear and In Character" . We anticipate loads of media coverage.
Make ready for 'News at 11'.
We are stepping forward to say, "Marriage is the affirmation by
mutual choice of any combination of people as life partners. It is
the commitment that is sacred and not gender, race, bloodline or
Peace and Blessings,
Phil & rodtney
Master & slave; Daddy & boi, Friends, and Lovers is how we express our
commitment together.With the odds of a successful marriage lasting at 50/50;
any lifestyle that is working deserves examining. Perhaps what is there to
discover, is that regardless of oonfiguration, most successful unions
contain some basics: Respect; Honesty, and the ability to comprimise.
We'd like to share with you here, a little of the process of how this is
happening now. Luck, it is said, is wht happens when preparation and
opportunity meet. This then, is a lucky moment for us. We knew we wanted
to 'get married'. We didn't know exactly how that was going to take place
- and we still only have an 'idea' of how our actual 'Wedding' will take
place. It will most likely take place up here in the woods mid-summer
I have a habit of picking up papers and bring them home to read -
loads of them. So one night recently, I was proped up on the bed
watching listening to the TV and reading. There it was in the
Bay Area Reporter on page 18:
"Brown, Migden to officiate at 'Same-sex wedding II' March 25".
"Here come the brides - and the grooms, too, for that matter. Mayor
Willie Brown and Assemblywoman Carole Migden will once again officiate a
same-sex wedding ceremony at City Hall on Wednesday, March 25 -- exactly
two years after they presided over the first such ceremony in San Francisco..."
Instantly we 'knew' it was our time to stand up and be counted. Even
though we had been to the City the day before, we decided we'd better go
in the next day and sign up. And yes indeed, we were number forty-nine!
The next thing of course, was to send out the announcements. E-mails went
out and the kudo's came back immediately from all around the world. Then
we made an announcement card and mailed it out to our friends and family
who don't have computers yet.
Next our attention turned to wardrobe and presentation. What to wear.
How to act. How to manage our collar ritual during the ring exchange.
What to say to the press? What to give to the Press? Who to notify?
What if there are detractors? Who will accompany us when only two
are allowed? What to do afterwards? (Our parents will watch us on TV.)
All of this comes as we are planning our Spring itinerary: LeatherFest
San Diego, Palm Springs, L.A. IML-20 Chicago, a visit to my 97 year old
mother in Michigan - where to go from there? Getting home in time to greet
our guests arriving from Brooklyn, New York. Like they say, "The more you
do, the more you can do." The weather was fantastic over the weekend - the
first all winter really. So I worked on the Van getting it ready for the
next 10,000 miles of driving. So far so good. Everything's getting done.
rodtney's in bed with a cold. he asked for Rum. I wanted ice cream
(we both gotta lose the winter fat). So we're having Rum and ice cream
tonight (March 17th). The scorpio moon is shining bright with a ring
around it. Rain maybe? And so it goes. Details, details, details -
I thrive on details actually.
Almost as soon as we realized we'd made this decision I made this statement,
"boi, your Man can feel the chemistry changing." And it's true. People who
can and do get married, and are accepted and recognized for it, probably do
not sense this or take it for granted. And who knows, maybe this is why so
often it doesn't last. It's simply not sacred enough to carry them ahead of
whatever imperfection is at hand. But for us; this is our moment in time.
I'd like to close off this chapter with a message that came in via e-mail
this morning from a good friend, Kent:
"May God guide your path together as you start the path of eternity."
Another good friend, Gina Hall and her right hand dawg, Atomic Dawg,
sent this GREAT congradulatory response!
MERCI BEAUCOUP GERVAIS! We will be talking with you soon.
Well, We did it! Take a look at our Wedding Album
Perhaps this is what the chemistry change is all about. We'll keep adding
to this as we move along through Spring of '98. We hope yours is
truly blessed as well!
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